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The Love-Life List or How to Start Living Your Dreams Today

The Love-Life List or How to Start Living Your Dreams Today

| On 13, Dec 2013

 

If your life has no ups and downs, you’re dead, someone said. I don’t know what’s your quick fix, but when I’m feeling very tired and need some inspiration to get back on track, I like reading motivational articles or books.

I recently discovered this wonderful lady who’s a life coach, and in one of her articles, she was talking about her love-life list. The title caught my attention and I was curious to learn what a love/life list is, and how or whether such a list can be useful for me as well.

What is life coaching?

Create happiness with life coachingFor those of you who aren’t familiar with life coaching, I’ll give a short explanation here: a life coach, job which is becoming very popular these days, is different from a psychologist or psychotherapist, although there are similarities in what they do.

The life coach (LC) focuses on helping people reach their maximum potential, organize their life – be it personal or professional, overcome the tough events that cross their paths and make the best decisions for their present and future.

He/she guides people toward their dreams, he’s like a mentor you can always rely on when your life gets extremely complicated and you need a fresh opinion from someone with enough experience and knowledge. And the nicest part is that the LC never focuses on what’s “wrong” with you, but on your strengths, abilities and skills, on what you can become once get over a temporary dysfunctionality.

A life coach doesn’t offer you pre-made solutions, as his purpose is to help you know yourself better, step out of your comfort zone and change those things that make you unhappy or keep you from reaching your maximum potential.

But let’s get back to the list. A love-life list is more or less a written form of your biggest dream or a description of your ideal future. It usually starts with an “If” and includes lots of things you’d do once achieving your greatest dream.

The love-life list – why and how to do it

If you’re at a crossroads and don’t know where to go from there, the love-life list can be of great help. I’ll first show you an example, as this way it will be easier for you to understand what this list serves for and how to write and use it. So here we go:

 

“This is how my ideal life would look like IF I lived in Wien:

I live in Wien, I’m a renowned author, I have my loyal readers and I often meet them in a nice café here, to delight ourselves with beautiful and stimulating ideas. I’m surrounded by beauty and beautiful people. Workouts are part of my morning ritual, and I usually have coffee in a cozy library-café near my office, where they often play jazz.

My office is decorated just like I wanted it to be, the walls are covered by pictures and I have a nice collection of candles that stimulates my creativity. I often work from home and take walks in the park or go down to the lake, when I need new ideas for my books.”

 

Choose happinessThe list could go on, but you probably got the idea: I would be happier IF I lived there, IF I had this and that, IF I had a different job, IF I knew other people and so on. On the love-life list, you write down all the places, actions, people, fragrances and sensations, colors, textures, absolutely everything that would be part of your life once you achieve your greatest dream.

Then, you try to identify those actions or things that are already part of your present, or could be, with minimum time and money investment. By doing so, you’ll get some useful clues on what actually defines you, what makes you feel happy and accomplished, and what you can do to get one step closer to your dream.

So here’s the list again:

 

“I live in Wien, I’m a renowned author, I have my loyal readers and I often meet them in a nice café here, to delight ourselves with beautiful and stimulating ideas. I’m surrounded by beauty and beautiful people. Workouts are part of my morning ritual, and I usually have coffee in a cozy library-café near my office, where they often play jazz. My office is decorated just like I wanted it to be, the walls are covered by pictures and I have a nice collection of candles that stimulates my creativity. I often work from home and take walks in the park or go down to the lake, when I need new ideas for my books.”

 

If we keep only the bold words, we get this:

 

“I’m an author, I have my loyal readers, a nice café here; delight ourselves with beautiful and stimulating ideas. I’m surrounded by beauty and beautiful people. Workouts are part of my ritual, I have coffee in a cozy library-café, where they often play jazz. My office is decorated just like I wanted it to be, I have a nice collection of candles that stimulates my creativity. I often work from home”.

 

I probably won’t move to Wien tomorrow, as this isn’t a priority, but what I can do in order to feel better and happier when nothing seems to work, is start including in my life all the other things that can be done here and now, in the given circumstances.

For example: if one day I’m feeling blue, I can take a walk or just play some jazz or go grab a snack and a cup of coffee in my favorite library-café. These actions will make me feel better, here and now.

In other words, I don’t have to wait for my dream to come true, and for my ideal future to happen, in order to feel happier – I can start creating my ideal life here and now, with the things and skills I already have.

And you can do it as well! In the end, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to actually start living your dream life, or just keep dreaming about your ideal future, but without doing anything to make it happen. So what’s on your love-life list?